Breaking the cycle of Depression….for good by Paul Grant, Human Givens therapist

May 29, 2012

Depression is now the number one psychological disorder presenting in the Western World. It is growing fastest among young people and, through suicide; it kills as many people as the AIDS epidemic. Modern therapists have the knowledge and skills needed to break the cycle of depression for good, in the vast majority of sufferers. When too many stresses and pressures take hold in the life of an individual, coupled with negative introspection (worry) the result can be a period of crippling depression. The consequences can be soul destroying for the depressed person. They feel locked away in isolation from their closest friends and family. Motivation is lost. Relationships suffer. Mood is constantly low. For some, self-harm or suicide may seem the only option. But it doesn’t have to be that way!

Therapists trained at the Human Givens College are well equipped in helping depressed individuals get their lives back on track again. A very welcome bonus is that Human Givens therapists work to achieve this result as quickly and in as few sessions as possible. And they do achieve lasting results. Even though, to the outsider, a depressed person seems super-calm, almost in a trance, the sufferer is in fact highly emotionally aroused. Their brains never stop worrying. So one of the first things the therapist will do is help the person to calm down so that they can think clearly about their situation. Secondly the therapist will help the depressed person to stop worrying and instead focus on solutions to their problems, particularly, on which of their needs are not being met. Thirdly, the therapist will provide the client with tools to enable them to get their needs met, so that they can move forward in life.

Understanding depression

The depressed individual will be worrying because an important area of that person’s life is not working or appears not to be working properly. People in today’s society face extreme pressures. Many are in financial difficulties. Relationships are suffering due to the hectic pace of life and to the false expectations of what a perfect person or relationship of life “should” be like. Business owners and their employees are under more pressure than ever to meet targets and perform exceptionally well. When a combination of a few of these or similar scenarios occur simultaneously, it is perfectly understandable that a person will begin to worry excessively and become highly anxious.

Excessive worry and the fear, anxiety and anger which it induces, puts huge pressure on the dreaming function of the brain during sleep. Only in the last 15 years have psychologists discovered that people dream at night to de-arouse their highly- charged emotions. People who are not excessively depressed, anxious (or angry) normally have two hours of dream (REM) sleep per night to de-arouse their mental “software”. They also have 5-6 hours of restorative sleep to recharge their bodies “hardware” with energy. This will result in the body being both emotionally and physically rested. An individual who is worrying excessively dreams for many hours each night and so does not get enough restorative sleep. This is why, in spite of sleeping for prolonged periods, they often wake up feeling exhausted. As a result, they may achieve little the next day. This results in even more worry. And so the cycle proceeds and worsens so that they become more and more depleted, ineffective and depressed.

The depressed person’s inability to focus their attention on issues means that they can’t think clearly about how to solve the very problems or concerns that are causing the worry! In a very short period of time such people can lose the motivation to try.  Their life begins to lose meaning and purpose. They lose interest in their friends and hobbies and so they drift into a persistent downward depressive, lonely cycle.

Fortunately, it no longer needs to be this way. Human Givens therapists can help clients break this cycle of worry, sadness and anxiety very quickly. They have helped people who have been depressed for 20 years or more to recover completely within weeks and months. The majority of these recovered clients no longer need to use anti-depressants or tranquilizers.

Basic Tools for breaking the cycle of depression

7:11 breathing – Making the out-breaths last 1/3 longer than the in-breath quietens the mind: allowing it to think straight and clearly again.

Exercise – 30 minutes five times per week – raises our blood serotonin levels (the happiness hormone)

Solutions – Spending time thinking about the cause of the worry, potential solutions and taking positive small actions is more effective than worrying about it.

During a therapy session the therapist will teach these and other essential tools and techniques that can be used to break the cycle of depression for good.


As a Humans Givens therapist Paul Grant works with people suffering from depression, addictions, stress, anxiety, phobias, panic attacks and many other emotional problems. For further details see To book a confidential appointment e-mail or telephone 00447739731424.